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“That’s not terrible. That’s human.”
“I hate it.” She pressed her hands against her thighs. “There was this night — maybe a year ago. I was working late, some deadline that doesn’t even matter now, and he texted me to ask if I was coming home for dinner. I said no. I didn’t even think about it.” She looked at the ceiling. “I keep going back to that night. Like if I’d just put the laptop down and gone home—”
“Sarah.” I kept my voice even. “You’ve done this work. You know the answer.”
“I know the answer and I can’t make myself believe it on the days when it hurts.”
I nodded slowly and looked down at my hands, folded in my lap. I understood that gap more personally than I could say. The obsessive replaying, the way you circle one specific moment and convince yourself that’s where it all went wrong — as if the whole thing balanced on a single night, a single choice, and not on the person who decided to lie.
We worked through it together — the difference between knowing the answer and being able to live inside it on any given Tuesday. By the end of the session she was calmer, more grounded. She thanked me and left.
I sat in my chair for a while after.
The thing I’d said to her:that’s not terrible. That’s human.I meant it. And I meant it for myself too, even on the days when it was hard to hold both things—the anger at what he’d done, and the simple fact that I missed him.
Sally had said something once that I kept coming back to.The missing doesn’t cancel the anger. The anger doesn’t cancel the missing. You’re going to feel both for a long time, and that’s not a problem to solve.I was working on believing it.
Chapter 17
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— Bea —
Her name was Claire. Mid-forties. She sat down in the chair across from me with the practiced composure of a woman who had been pretending for so long she probably didn’t even realize she was doing it anymore. Her hands stayed folded in her lap throughout the session. She didn’t reach for the tissue box, even when her eyes filled.
“He did everything right,” she said. “Therapy. Honesty. He put in the work. I’ve watched him put in the work for two years.”
“And?”
She looked at the window. “And I can’t get there.” She said it flatly, like a diagnosis. “I want to. I’ve wanted to every day for two years. But when he reaches for me—” She stopped. “Something closes. Something in me just—closes.”
We sat with that for a moment. “What does closed feel like?” I asked.
She thought about it. “Like I’m standing behind glass,” she said. “I can see him. I can see exactly who he is now, how hard he’s tried. And I still can’t make myself open the door.”
I wrote nothing down. I just listened.
“I don’t think that’s going to change,” she said. “I think I’ve known that for six months. I just didn’t want to say it out loud.”
We talked for another forty minutes. By the end, she was quieter — not better, exactly, but more honest with herself aboutwhat she was holding. That was sometimes the most we could do in a single session.
After she left I sat for a while before my next appointment.
Standing behind glass. The way some wounds don’t heal so much as scar over. Sealed. Intact. Nothing gets through, which means nothing has to.
I understood it. Clinically, I understood it perfectly.
I didn’t let myself follow the thought any further than that.
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If I were the kind of person who believed the universe had a sense of humor, I’d have said it was messing with me when my next client walked into my office.
Sarah’s husband and his second phone. Claire and the two years her partner had spent trying to earn back something she couldn’t give. And now Brett — mid-thirties, referred by the same center, a different intake counselor.
“I ended it,” he said, leaning forward in the chair, elbows on his knees. “She didn’t cheat. I did. I told her immediately. Then I ended it before she could.”
I kept my voice neutral. “Walk me through that.”
